Dear Katherine,

How do I get a man to like me and not treat me bad?

Aliyah

Aliyah, darling,

How do you get a man to like you and treat you well? The real question is—why would you ever accept anything less?

Let’s get one thing straight: You are not a performer in some grand audition for approval. You don’t convince someone to like you, and you certainly don’t negotiate for basic respect. You exist—brilliantly, unapologetically—and the right man will recognize that. The wrong ones? Let them trip over themselves wondering why they lost their chance.

Now, being treated well—that’s not a bonus, that’s the baseline. A man who values you will show it with consistency, kindness, and effort. If he’s interested but inconsistent? If he keeps you guessing? If he treats you like an option while expecting to be a priority? No, thank you. You don’t have time to decode mixed signals. You are not a detective, and his feelings are not a crime scene.

Here’s the real power move: Stop asking “Does he like me?” and start asking “Do I even like him?” When you shift your mindset from seeking approval to deciding who deserves a spot in your life, everything changes. You are the prize, darling—not a consolation, not a maybe, and certainly not a backup plan.

So hold your head high, set your standards even higher, and remember—when a man truly sees your worth, you won’t have to remind him how to treat you. And if he doesn’t? Well, let’s just say I’ve never regretted walking away.

With all my wicked little heart,

Katherine